Category: Singles Spit Swap
I am a hopeless romantic at heart! I am looking for a man between 20 to 25 who likes to hang out and be my best friend. I want a best friend and a lover. I'm tired of the drama, and the games. I am 25 about to be 26 this July, and I'm ready to experience true love, and share my heart with someone. I graduated college two and a half years ago with a teaching certification in the state of New Jersey to teach kindergarten to fifth grade. I speak Spanish fluently, a year's worth of Italian, 3 years ofFrench, and a few words in Greek and Chinese. I'm looking for someone down to earth, sensitive, kind, considerate, compassionate,and respectful. My last relationship was great, we were jus tnot meant for one another. . We parted amicably, and we are still great friends. I am ready to get to know someone who is ready to treat me like a lady. So if you want to get to know me or like what you read on this post, write down your comments, and we can talk. I hope everyone has a great evening! Take care! Your friend poetry in motion :) P.S. I am a recent graduate of the Louisiana Center For The Blind, so I know how to cook clean and travel independently, so flying long distance is not a problem for me!
Well, I'm not offering the true love, but I could use the cooking! JK
Good luck on the serious side.
True love comes after much time together. I'd start out with just true fun. Smile.
I must agree with the previous poster. True love is something which takes lot of time and dedication to go after, and of course, a lot of dedication from both sides. I hope you find what you seak and that it takes you lots of places you've never gone before.
I'm not sure if true love exist. I believe in soul mate, i believe in dedication, commitments etc, but with the divorce rate and everything else, true love is somewhat over rated. You are 25 going on to 26, i guess, try from friendship, and go from there. Good luck and all the best.
True love exists, but it is nothing more than what you make it. I don't think it is something you can look for, its just something you find.
Saying something is true love would imply that it is the only one. Its actually usually followed by the word one: "He's my one true love". This is just inaccurate. There's nearly eight billion people on this planet, I can promise that there is someone else out there who you could have fallen in love with and that would have been your true love. So there isn't just one.
True love is nothing more than what you make it. I can't offer it to you poster, because I already found it, but I wish you all the best of luck. My advice, don't look for it so hard. Enjoy the adventure of life, you'll find a partner to join you when you least expect it. Keep your eyes open, but don't focus so much that you miss all the other little pleasures that being single can offer you.
Couldn't have said it better than the last post. I wish you well. A loving relationship is a wonderful thing, something that, when found, is to be nurtured and worked on to remain strong.
I won't sit here and tell you that you'll find what you're seeking, as you might never do so. however, you're more likely to, if you stop looking, have fun just living life, and find happiness within yourself.
You said you are tired of the drama and the games.
* so don't get involved in the drama and games?
You said you wanted someone who treats you like a lady.
* So what is a lady anymore, and how will you tell this man that he isn't going to get punched in the face for sexism when he treats you like a lady?
The man you end up with will be just as human as you are, have as many hopes and dreams, needs and desires, and yes, feelings. I know, everyone says that a girl's feelings are more important than a guy's, but we men though raised as male appliances are, horror of all things, not machines that you can program in a list of expectations and get out a list of responses coded to your liking. You probably have 20 years to wait for that, and you can get one of those off the assembly line, an artificially intelligent robot who will respond exactly how you want.
But the neat thing, and the challenging thing, about falling in love with another human instead of a machine is that humans aren't perfect, and usually don't stand up very well to long lists of expectations. Not long term, at least. You as a woman surely know this: you were no doubt taught in your schools and books and even your TV programs, about all the former women of bygone eras who had to live up to long lists of expectations, and didn't make it. That wasn't because they were women, that was because they were human beings. Homo sapiens and all other known life forms just don't survive very well in an environment rich with expectations, and they-should-treat-me-likes. Show me a human living in that kind of environment and I'll show you a human that will either emplode or corrode internally, in either case end up dead physically or otherwise.
If you want something that will fulfill a long list of expectations, wait 20 years or so and get a personal robot made to your very specific requirements. If you want to share life with another human, just be prepared for their inevitable humanity, no matter what the gender of the human is. Tropical plants survive better in the desert than humans do under the overhanging list of expectations.
I like that.
Hmm, uncle leo, you got your point. I suppose when poetry said she wants someone treat her like a lady, my first thought is that, she wants someone to pemper and nurture her like a flower, or like a princess?
The irony is, Joanne, many western Women who are like this say they want to be treated like a lady, pampered and such, and still treated like an equal, independent and everything. It is similar to some of the blind who may say they want to get all this extra help but at the same time want to be seen as independent and competent.
Wayne very good on your first post to this board; made me laugh.
To the OP, good luck. :)
honestly, it sounds like you don't really know what you're looking for on a practical level. You know ideologically, but in this case, that's really not enough. the good news, is most people are in the same boat. what will probably be best for you in the long run is to relax, and take this time you have before you're locked in to your job for good to live, learn, and laugh. Make friends, find lovers. Realize that for the most part your paths will diverge, but you'll gain experiences and lessons from them all. In short, focus on the journey, not the goal. I've learned the hard way no for ever plan is perfect. I've been told by many people in their 40s and 50s, and 60s that they wish they'd lived more, focused more on what was happening around them, and less on finding MR/MRS perfect. Maybe i'm wrong. Hell. i'm only 22, but i've learned this much. You can't boil people down to a check list of features. We're not products, we're not manufactured to a guideline. and true love is only true in the sense that the lives we're living are true.
Good luck to you. May you live, learn and find piece at the end of the road.
Well said to the last poster. If only I had had that kind of insight at 22, just sayin.
I agree with the others. I've bee single for over a year now and have been making a special effort not to look since that only tends to get me in trouble. LOL. But I figure if it's gonna happen it'll happen when it decides it's ready. The Zone isn't necessarily the place I would go looking but that's just me.
I think you all need to read what I am about to say. I recently spoke to Poetry In
Motion. She was the one who posted this. She may seem nice but she in my opinion
can not handle a real relationship and has a distorted idea of what a real relationship
should be like. I am not saying anything bad about her but any of you guys who may
read this might just want to keep this all in mind before considering messaging her.
Mark, doesn't that seem rather inappropriate. Never mind you're basically gossoping about someone, but you're warning people away from her with only your insubstantial oppinion. Maybe you have the best of intentions, but that doesn't make it right. And it doesn't bode well for your prospects as far as your own "love advertisement" is concernned.
to add to what BG said, in saying what you did about her, Mark, you're saying that people shouldn't even give this woman a chance, based on your supposed experience with her.
if I were a single woman reading what you said, I'd think twice about giving you a chance, not the person you're gossiping about.
People are reading her post under the basis of wanting a relationship and as I said in
my post, I was just saying what I felt needed to be said. Furthermore I could prove
what I said earlier. I am under the assumption people want a relationship and not a 1
time fling.
Mark let me put it to you this way.
Only those who know you, and know what kind of person you are, would consider taking your word on something like that. So there are two anonymous people here on the Internet: Poetry In Motion and you.
Now none of us knows either of you. But if one accuses the other, it doesn't follow that we should heed the one doing the accusing. That's impossible, as we know neither of you.
Now, my own deduction of the situation, by watching her online, my own personal opinion? She's an idealist, living on cloud 9, doesn't seem like has had much experience with reality and real human beings. Something outside of romance novels. But all that, anyone can see by her posts on here, and mine is just an opinion, and nobody has to listen to me.
And, I'm not looking for a relationship, so my opinion ultimately doesn't matter.
But saying personal things about her, as a sort of "warning" to people you don't know and she doesn't know, just isn't very credible. Rational people can't be expected to take your word over hers.
Further, you did post this publicly, rather than writing what you had to say to private acquaintances of yours on here. Those people, who know you, might have reason to take your word for it.
I did talk to acquaintances and what I was told I didn't mention on here in respect to
the poster. However I know from the experience that I wish someone would have
warned me up front so I took the initiative of warning others myself. I could care less if
a few people don't like me for it. It is neither my job or my goal to get people to like
what I say. My goal was to come out here and from the experience I had let people
know what they might be getting into. If they read this and still pursue than I can rest
knowing at least I gave fair warning.
Actually, publicly what you gave was personal oppinion without context. Not that you should have gone into detail. You had a bad experience with her, and that's fine. But nobody likes being talked about behind their back in this manner. You're basically starting rumors, and perhaps you're doing it with the best of intentions, but their unsubstiantial and hearsay nature are just unnecessary. They aren't going to stop anyone who is interested in her, and nor should they.
Would you want people posting about you in this manner?
As I said it isn't rumors as I can prove my point and if anyone ask privately I will. If I
did something crummy as she did I already know people would discuss it. As I said
earlier I am not asking for approval on what I said so consider this conversation mute.
Mark, it is up to each person to find out what you found out when you struck up a
conversation with the original poster. You are not the relationship police, or have the right
to be some kind of consumer awareness agent in the area of online relationships.
Relationships are deeply personal and what you qualify as a bad experience may just be a
positive one for someone else, but that's not even the point. The act of getting to know
someone is different for every person, and it is not up to you to make judgements about a
person publicly based on your perception from your own point of view. Sorry, dude, but I
have to call it like it is.
again, Mark, would you want someone to publicly discuss how they had a bad experience with you, and air your stuff out here for all of us to judge as we see fit?
I'm sure you wouldn't. at least I'd hope not. so, think, next time. that's all we're asking.
leo is right, in saying that people will get to know one another of their own accord, regardless of who says what, just cause that's what we do as humans: get to know people we think we can connect with.
chelslicious once again I did what needed to be done. If you can't understand that then
that is your problem and not mine.
all I can say is, I hope no one ever does that to you, under the guise of them claiming they were doing what needed to be done.
Am I the only one who feels like if your looking for a relationship you should use a site specifically for that rather then hoping for the best and getting god knows what off this site?
no, RBM, you aren't the only one who feels that way.
either use a site specifically geared towards meeting people, try and locate other places where you can post ads, or perhaps try meeting people in real life, at any number of places.
chelslicious given your medical condition involving your lady parts I don't think it is
proper or wise to give relationship advice. Just saying.
given the fact you're talking about the wrong person, STFU, Mark.
Whatever you say pinhole. I remember how gordon from gordon radio had that
recording of you. good times.
Wow Mark, ... Just wow. You really don't know when to quit, do you? Intellectual gifts do not breed wisdom and social grace, that's for bloody sure. You officially have zero credibility in terms of personal oppinions of others. What needed to be done is for you to be silent, mind your own bloody business and keep your oppinions and thoughts of others to yourself! After all, if you talk about her behind your back, who else will you talk about?
Eliza Jane.
Omg wow.
You know, I was listening to the Free Domain Radio podcast this past weekend, and he was talking to an older woman worried about so-called settling, and such. Now, the guy is an atheist, but I think that smart theists can put a theistic wrapper on what he said, something compatible with their beliefs:
Love is born of virtue. You love someone you can respect. Virtue isn't some prim Victorian notion, it predates Christianity in Europe. It means how you are to the community around you, well a lot more. But anyway. When you find someone you love, it's someone whose actions you highly respect: maybe their empathy to other people, maybe something else. As one who is in that situation, his description really resonated with me. Kinda deflates the whole Hollywood notion of soulmates. More than just "ooh that's the one," I can mention a lot of characteristics I admire about the One I'm with, before saying anything about attractiveness and such, which is obviously there. Love born of virtue, or honor, or characteristics you see in the other. Some of our theists on here could take that and preach. Lol.
You all know that she calls like 10 people on this forum her boyfriend.. I wonder if she
ever gets the names mixed up. So umm does she tell all u guys that ur the one for her?
Seriously., wow, just wow.
Ok, omfg and a bunch of other censored crap. I
didn't write this crap and i hate that came outta my
account. First off, I'm new and i don't know
anybody. I came here hoping to make a few friends,
not otherwise. I hosted a party and had about 20 or
so people over. I have 6 or so computers around
the house and i always let whoever use them if they
need. My usernames and passwords are saved on
most of them to make it easier for me. Guess it
backfired, and instead of using their own, they
cowardly use mine, and with the amount of peeps
that were here, it's impossible to tell who, so the
only thing I can do is to make a public apology to
the op. I don't know you and have never spoken to
you, so these views are not my own.
I humbly apologize to you.
I looked for an edit or delete feature to no avail.
I do greatly apologize to you poetry. Seems liken y
ouv already endured enough crap in this post.